Mommy Monday: Relationship Reality CheckOctober 13, 2014
Sunday concluded with the baby in bed by 8 PM, and a huge accomplished to-do list. Coffee may or may not have had something to do with how productive I was. But never the less, the apartment is spotless!
Joshua and I were winding down and searching for something to watch. Romance, why not? Safe Haven; great I need a good girly cry.
At the time, I didn't remember that I'd already read this book years ago. (Not like you need to read the book to know the outcome of a Nicholas Sparks movie/ book anyway). Regardless it was a pretty decent adaptation and I got to watch Josh Duhamel be a sexy shirtless dilf for two hours.
I bawled at the end. I'm pretty sure you have to be a heartless beast not to cry at the end of a Nicholas Sparks movie. As Joshua watched me from the corner of his eye, mocking my tears, I repeated the same words that leave my mouth after every Nicholas Sparks movie. "I hate Nicholas Sparks." It's true. He really presents things in such a way that your little brain cant translate into actuality. After the movie I went to shower and became immediately mad at Joshua for no freaking reason. Idiotic thoughts like "why don't we ever go canoeing, " and "he's never danced with me in hardware store," rushed through my head. It was all could do not to smack myself before I realized how stupid I was being.
As I walked from the bathroom to our bedroom I caught a quick glimpse of him, legs sprawled and snoring on the couch. A hint of drool on his chin, his shirt crumbled in a ball beneath him on the floor and an empty Coke can laying on it's side. I don't know what came over me, but I loved him so much in that moment.
Life is not a Nicholas Sparks novel, nor should it be. Real life is coming home to a man that tracks dirt into the living room because he wont take his shoes off at the door. Or dirty clothes next to the hamper, but not quite in it. Real life is growing stronger through every fight and admitting to the other when you're wrong. We aren't perfect, nor will we ever be. We are simply two imperfect people who fell for each other.
There are days I want to pop his little head off, and days where I simply can't get enough of him. But that's normal to me. It shouldn't be butterflies, and sunsets all the time. It's ok to argue and even better to work through it.
The quote above is actually from the Safe Haven novel, and the first time I've ever actually agreed with Nicholas Sparks. This quote really speaks to me, and confirms everything I stand for when it comes to my relationship. Not only are we madly, deeply and truly in love, but we are companions and best friends. We are working on our life together every single day and truly understand that love is more than just an exchange of words.
Taken Friday, on a little date night. (: