Mommy Monday: Relationship Reality Check

October 13, 2014


Sunday concluded with the baby in bed by 8 PM, and a huge accomplished to-do list. Coffee may or may not have had something to do with how productive I was. But never the less, the apartment is spotless! 

Joshua and I were winding down and searching for something to watch. Romance, why not? Safe Haven; great I need a good girly cry.
At the time, I didn't remember that I'd already read this book years ago. (Not like you need to read the book to know the outcome of a Nicholas Sparks movie/ book anyway). Regardless it was a pretty decent adaptation and I got to watch Josh Duhamel be a sexy shirtless dilf for two hours. 
I bawled at the end. I'm pretty sure you have to be a heartless beast not to cry at the end of a Nicholas Sparks movie. As Joshua watched me from the corner of his eye, mocking my tears, I repeated the same words that leave my mouth after every Nicholas Sparks movie. "I hate Nicholas Sparks." It's true. He really presents things in such a way that your little brain cant translate into actuality. After the movie I went to shower and became immediately mad at Joshua for no freaking reason. Idiotic thoughts like "why don't we ever go canoeing, " and "he's never danced with me in hardware store," rushed through my head. It was all could do not to smack myself before I realized how stupid I was being. 

As I walked from the bathroom to our bedroom I caught a quick glimpse of him, legs sprawled and snoring on the couch. A hint of drool on his chin, his shirt crumbled in a ball beneath him on the floor and an empty Coke can laying on it's side. I don't know what came over me, but I loved him so much in that moment.
 Life is not a Nicholas Sparks novel, nor should it be. Real life is coming home to a man that tracks dirt into the living room because he wont take his shoes off at the door. Or dirty clothes next to the hamper, but not quite in it. Real life is growing stronger through every fight and admitting to the other when you're wrong. We aren't perfect, nor will we ever be. We are simply two imperfect people who fell for each other. 
There are days I want to pop his little head off, and days where I simply can't get enough of him. But that's normal to me. It shouldn't be butterflies, and sunsets all the time. It's ok to argue and even better to work through it. 
The quote above is actually from the Safe Haven novel, and the first time I've ever actually agreed with Nicholas Sparks. This quote really speaks to me, and confirms everything I stand for when it comes to my relationship. Not only are we madly, deeply and truly in love, but we are companions and best friends. We are working on our life together every single day and truly understand that love is more than just an exchange of words. 


Taken Friday, on a little date night. (: 

xo kiki



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16 comments

  1. Love your blog! I just followed you, would you please follow me back? :)
    Michaella from http://quitealooker.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you Michaella and of course! (:

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  2. Interesting quote! Not sure if I agree with it or not. After 6 years of marriage I prefer to steer clear of arguements.
    Dresses & Denim

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    1. Thank you, sometimes they are unavoidable. haha. (:

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  3. I love this post! It is so true - Nicholas Sparks is the worst because he makes women think that his stories are real life when that just can't happen ever day. I much prefer the imperfect :)

    Maggie
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    1. Thanks Maggie. The imperfect makes life more interesting. haha.

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  4. Beautiful post! If life was perfect, it wouldn't be any fun! Love the imperfections that make everyone who they are and make relationships so much more interesting!

    Mel
    http://girlandthepolkadot.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks Mel. (: We always joke after an argument and say, aw look how much stronger we are now. haha

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  5. I LOVE that movie!
    -B
    heelshandbagsandhormones.blogspot.com

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  6. Agreed! Love is a commitment, and more than just a feeling. I love/hate Nicholas Sparks too! ;)

    www.jeannechristinemarie.blogspot.com

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    1. Right, there's no better way to put it really. haha

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  7. So adorable Kiki
    I love your blog
    Kisses
    Maggie D.
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    1. Thank you Maggie. (: I'll def check your blog out.

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  8. Beautiful and honest post.. I exactly know what u are talking gal.. I have been married for over an year now and
    Love and Marriage teaches u something new each day..
    Lets follow each other n stay in touch.. I just did :)

    www.ananyatales.com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! I'll definitely check out your blog! (:

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